What would Mom say?

What would Mom say?

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Mom worked full-time while raising four children and she wanted it to be easier for me than it was for her. When I was in high school, she bought me a t-shirt that said, “A Woman’s Place is in the House and the Senate” and I recall both positive and negative remarks from teachers and classmates when I proudly wore it to school. Mom was a proud feminist, subscribed to Ms. magazine, and referred to herself as a member of the “women’s libber movement“.

I remember conversations with my Mom about discriminatory work practices that were so common in her generation and still in mine.  I was sexually harassed when I was younger.  I was french kissed by one boss while still in high school and in another, whistled at and catcalled every time I walked out on a factory floor. Female co-workers would warn me about certain male bosses not to accept lunch invitations from.  When I had a joint banking account with my husband at a local credit union in the 80’s, I wasn’t allowed to conduct certain financial transactions because he was listed as the “primary” on the account.

Mom shared a ridiculous story about when she smoked in her early twenties, which was in the 1950’s, that she had to do so in the basement of her own home because good wives of teachers didn’t smoke in public or were even seen smoking through their own home windows.

Mom was my role model.  She showed me how to  juggle career and family on a daily basis, how to get organized, how to manage my time, how to carve out small moments for self-care, how to stand up for myself and how to ask for help and get it. She helped many women and children in her career in social services trying to reduce barriers, provide support, and improve the human condition.

I know Mom would be surprised by today’s attacks on human rights and would support a renewed wave of support for all to include policies to:

  • pay the same as men do for the same job
  • recognize and value doing so much of the hard work required or expected of raising children
  • become much better at supporting working women, and mothers
  • support choices
  • control our own destiny in this world, without regard to our gender, race and physical appearance

Mom died a long time ago when I was in my 30’s. What would Mom say if she was alive today?

I know she would be shocked at current events especially the hate talk, backtracking on human rights and loss of decorum in our government leaders.  She would say – you can do and be better.

1987

1987

In honor of Throwback Thursday I write this blog post.

I am on a planning committee for a party to celebrate the 30th anniversary of Women’s Policy Forum of Tarrant County.   We decided on a throw-back theme to the founding year, 1987. The party is open to the public on March 2nd at the Fort Worth Public Library as we wpfcelebrate Women’s History Month. Attendees are encouraged to wear 1980’s attire — you know, the big hair, puffy shoulder pads, and bangles in honor of the Bangles.  Here is the link to the schedule of events for the month:  Women’s History Month Schedule of Events

 

On the planning committee, I volunteered to prepare a song playlist for the party so over the holiday break I have been compiling a list.   This also happens to be the year that C1 was born.  Wow — 30 years ago in 2017.  Debbie Gibson made the list (double wow).  Love me some Heart and Bruce Hornsby. 

Here are the top hits with the Bangles Walk Like an Egyptian as No. #1!

Position  ▾ Artist Song Title
credit:  bobborst.com
1 Bangles Walk Like An Egyptian
2 Heart Alone
3 Gregory Abbott Shake You Down
4 Whitney Houston I Wanna Dance With Somebody (Who Loves Me)
5 Starship Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now
6 Robbie Nevil C’est La Vie
7 Whitesnake Here I Go Again
8 Bruce Hornsby and The Range The Way It Is
9 Bob Seger Shakedown
10 Bon Jovi Livin’ On A Prayer
11 Los Lobos La Bamba
12 Wang Chung Everybody Have Fun Tonight
13 Crowded House Don’t Dream It’s Over
14 Atlantic Starr Always
15 U2 With Or Without You
16 Jody Watley Looking For A New Love
17 Lisa Lisa and Cult Jam Head To Toe
18 Tiffany I Think We’re Alone Now
19 Billy Idol Mony Mony
20 Billy Vera and The Beaters At This Moment
21 Chris De Burgh The Lady In Red
22 Whitney Houston Didn’t We Almost Have It All
23 U2 I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For
24 George Michael I Want Your Sex
25 Duran Duran Notorious
26 Debbie Gibson Only In My Dreams
27 Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes (I’ve Had) The Time Of My Life
28 Peter Cetera and Amy Grant The Next Time I Fall
29 Club Nouveau Lean On Me
30 Madonna Open Your Heart
31 Lisa Lisa and Cult Jam Lost In Emotion
32 Cutting Crew (I Just) Died In Your Arms
33 T’pau Heart And Soul
34 Kim Wilde You Keep Me Hangin’ On
35 Georgia Satellites Keep Your Hands To Yourself
36 Aretha Franklin and George Michael I Knew You Were Waiting (For Me)
37 Janet Jackson Control
38 Prince U Got The Look
39 Linda Ronstadt and James Ingram Somewhere Out There
40 Genesis Land Of Confusion
41 Huey Lewis and The News Jacob’s Ladder
42 Madonna Who’s That Girl
43 Jets You Got It All
44 Samantha Fox Touch Me (I Want Your Body)
45 Michael Jackson and Siedah Garrett I Just Can’t Stop Loving You
46 Madonna Causing A Commotion
47 Genesis In Too Deep
48 Janet Jackson Let’s Wait Awhile
49 Huey Lewis and The News Hip To Be Square
50 Chicago Will You Still Love Me?